The Golden Rule, The Platinum Rule and more about nice people
Sometimes I would listen to friends or loved ones complaining about their colleagues or bosses. Well, so far I'm a bit lucky for I've never seen / involved in any office politics or encountered any colleagues who pissed me off. Through my working life, I should say that I'm lucky enough to meet a lot of nice people. It is also my principle to be nice to the people around me. And speaking about treating others the way they want to be treated, it reminds me of a situation a year ago. It was a rainy day and the traffic lights at a T-junction in SS3, Petaling Jaya, wasn't working. There stood an Indian man, a motorcyclist, in his raincoat, taking control of the congested traffic. Despite the danger and heavy downpour, he helped eases the traffic for other road users sake. I was touched by what this man can do. It was amazing how an ordinary man can make a difference in other people's life that evening.
In my last trip back to Kuantan, together with some friends, we had coffee with my best friend's uncle who shared with us the principles behind The Golden Rule and The Platinum Rule.
The Golden Rule states that "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This statement basically translated that says to treat others the way you would like to be treated.
On the other hand, The Platinum Rule says that "Treat others the way they want to be treated", which is even tougher to achieve.
Now the focus of relationships shifts from "this is what I want, so I'll give everyone the same thing" (under the Golden Rule) to "let me first understand what they want and then I'll give it to them" (under the Platinum Rule).
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Glad you have time posting now and blog hopping. :)
You are so lucky that you have a smooth lift path thus far.
If we practice this Platinum Rule, I believe we all will be treated well in return.
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The Indian man deserve some award too. Rain or hot day, they're there for us. I wish one of this day, i can just simply stop and say thank you to them. Yes they're working but still the same. It's a very honorable way making a living.
Good to see you blogging again :D
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sam: agree. sounds like buddhism, treat people good and one will have good karmic.
papajoneh: actually the indian man is just a road user like all of us ;)
